​The Story of Pure Love: Armando and Martha 

17 08 2017

22yrs Armando Valladares, a young journalist was working at his desk at a newspaper company when soldiers came to ask him to publish a communist propaganda supporting the new government of Fidel Castro. 

 He refused knowing full well that there would be consequences. He didnt have to wait long.  Armed soldier stormed his residence at night and arrested him. 

 For refusing to support communism, Armando was sentenced to 30 years in prison. He was arrested in the middle of the night and transferred to a notorious prison where hundreds of enemies of communism were beaten on a regular basis. 

But it was in this prison that Armando received a miracle in the form of a woman he met. She was one of the daughters of fellow prisoner and her name was Martha. 

They fell in love when they met, and began to write each other in secret. 

Years of communicating together deepened their love for one another. 

When the communist tried to force Armando to enroll in a compulsory reeducation program, Armando and his companions again refused. 

As a punishment, he spent 8 years in a special solitary confinement, with no windows, and no light coming in, only a small hole for his wastes. 

After 10years, the communist tried another technique, promising him freedom if only he could sign a document praising communism.

 But instead of signing his name, Armando, took the document and started writing poetry at the back. The guards tried to stop him but he changed tactics, writing with his blood instead on the back of onion skins which he smuggled out to Martha.


As the holocaust survivor, Victor Frank once said, “A man can endure any how a long as he has a why” From then on, nothing the soldiers did could hurt him anymore. 

His love for Martha broke down the prisons walls as he wrote poem to her using his own blood, and fresh breeze of love lifted him high, carrying him towards the sun.

Martha fled to the United State, and published thr peoms which became a bestseller raising a campaign against what Castro’s government was doing to her beloved. 
Amnesty international and other human rights group caught on and pressed the Cuban government for his release. 

Terrified of his growling fame the communist tried an old police trick to shatter his unshakable love for Martha.

They told him that Amnesty groups had dropped name from their list of prisoners of war, and that Martha had abandoned him. 

He responded in a serene and cheerful way saying, Now I know for certain that my Martha is succeeding in getting me out.”

He was right; a short time later, he was released from the prison where he had spent 22 years, unbroken, defending his own conscience,  and the dignity of every man to live in the freedom of theirs. 

His 22 years of unbroken resistance to tyranny demonstrated that man is capable of withstanding great evils when he loves and he is loved by another.

On his release from prison, he was finally united with his sweetheart Martha and he was caught on camera showering her with kisses right front and center before the flashing lights and world media. They got married soon after,  a crowning perseverance of love. 






​  A True love Story: Clare and Francis 

15 08 2017

I was reading the story of Dolores Hart, a very successful actress who left 



Hollywood to become a nun. Wondering what could make someone do such a thing, I breezed through the pages until I came to the part that best explained her eventual decision to become a nun. According to her, the highlight of her career was her part as Clare, in the movie Francis of Assisi, directed by Michael Curtiz.  

[This movie is about 1 hour long,  but worth everything minute of your time] 


Set in the 13th Century, the movie revolved around the life of two young people, Francis and Clare who loved each other. But Francis, the son of rich cloth trader, felt a voice calling him for something higher beckoning him to leave Clare the pretty daughter and all the worldly luxury of his fathers house. He followed the voice, stripping himself of everything to become a beggar friar. Clare rather than flaring up and throwing a tantrum, sought to understand him. She not only let him go, but joined him on his way to God. Thus was born St Francis and St Clare of Assisi. Two people who change the world.  

Another character in the movie, a friend of Francis and a knight, lusted after Clare. But rather than keep his love for her sacred, when he realized she was giving her life to God, he took to drinking and having sex with other girls.

Clares steadfast love for Francis, and his undying love for her, even when they knew that they could no longer belong to each other, is a good example for many young people today who are often lost, swept away by the putrid tide of impure lust lashing against them. Many think it is impossible to remain a virgin and keep a boyfriend.  This film offers us a clear vision of what true and perfect love looks like. The pure love of youthful Francis and for his pretty girlfriend, Clare opened his eyes to an even greater love, the love of God.  

Guys and girls should understand that true love, rather than being an occasion for premarital sex and all sorts of immorality, frees the heart to see the other as a gift and above all to see through the other to gaze on God, the creator, whose love surpasses all.

Girls in romantic relationships, if they can, should go and visit Santa Chiara, the Gothic church that contains the tomb of Saint Clare. Her 708-year-old body was laid out in a glass coffin. It was a wonder to see, uncorrupted and amazingly beautiful. There they will see what pure love has preserved and that the gift of physical beauty is only enhanced when it is used in service of God

As for Dolores, her part in that movie brought her in close contact with Clare. The life of the saint she was about to play could not but make her feel like a false image of the real thing. 

 “I caught my reflection in a mirror, she said, and I thought, Im the caricature, a dressed-up form of this lady who existed.  

Soon after the movie ended, Dolores opted for the real thing and left all that success to enter the convent as a nun and she has now lived there for more than 50 years.


Thanks to 20th century Fox who took great pains to ensure the film was historically and geographically accurate. 





Did Jesus Permit Divorce? By Kelvin Ugwu

18 07 2017

​*CATHOLICS AND PROTESTANTS: ON MARRIAGE, DIVORCE, AND THE BIBLE*

Because of Chinaka’s awesome response, I had an experience last weekend that has prompted me to write this. I got into a debate with some Protestants pastors, at first I did not know their intention was to mock Catholic teaching when they asked, “Did Jesus permit divorce? Can there be any situation in which a Christian can be allowed to divorce his or her spouse?”

My answer was clear: “Christ never permitted divorce, and there is no situation that allows one to divorce his or her spouse once the marriage is valid.”

Then, their reply got me thinking: “You Catholics make me laugh. Christ gave an exception that in the case of adultery, divorce is permissible. This is why I keep saying it, Catholics are idol worshippers. It is a secret cult. They do not follow the bible, they follow their silly tradition. Stop misleading people with your lies.”

Those words sincerely got me worried because of the people it came from. I really do not understand why some persons hate the Catholic Church with passion, or should I say, why it seems to some people that any teaching coming from the Catholic Church is not only wrong but evil.

So, let me ask you the same question that I was asked. Did Jesus permit divorce?

If you are ready, follow me let us explore the bible to find the answer together.

This whole misunderstanding is coming from Matthew 19:9 where it seems Christ gave an exception for divorce: “Whoever divorces his wife except for unchastity and marries another commits adultery.”

The exceptive clause, “EXCEPT FOR UNCHASTITY” is the major issue here. Simply put, unchastity is a good reason to divorce one’s spouse.

You may want to ask, what constitutes ‘unchastity?’ We shall get to know soon.

We all remember that the New Testament was originally written in Greek. (Even my grandmother knows this.) The Greek word for unchastity is “PORNEIA.” The Protestants argue that this Greek word “porneia” means adultery. This is why if you read the Protestant New International Version of the Bible, Matthew 19:9 is translated thus:

“I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, EXCEPT FOR MARITAL UNFAITHFULNESS, and marries another woman commits adultery.”

For most Protestants, though marriage is meant to last a life time, but adultery justifies divorce and remarriage. This is because they interpreted the Greek word “porneia” or “unchastity” as adultery. This is not so with Catholics.

Catholic biblical scholars believe that it is wrong to translate the Greek word “porneia” as adultery. In the Catholic New American Bible, Matthew 19:9 is translated thus:

“I say to you, whoever divorces his wife (unless the marriage is unlawful) and marries another commits adultery.”

Here, the exceptive clause is: “UNLAWFUL MARRIAGE.”

If you read King James Version of the bible, the translation for PORNEIA is even more interesting. It translates Matthew 19:9 thus:

“And I say unto you, whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for FORNICATION, and shall marry another committeth adultery.”

Here, the exceptive clause is Fornication. And fornication is the sin of two unmarried people having sexual intercourse. If either person is married or both are married to other people, the sin is called adultery. Following this translation, the only way that a couple could commit fornication is if they were never really in a Christian marriage to begin with.

Many recent translations of porneia in Matt 19:9 used “sexual immoralities.” That still begs the question on what sexual immoralities could mean.

In all these, what really is the correct translation for the word PORNEIA? Is it the Protestants’ adultery, the king James’ fornication, or the Catholics’ Unlawful marriage? Even if porneia is to be seen as unchastity or sexual immoralities, what constitutes unchastity?

The answer to the above questions can be better clarified using the bible. 

I will give you two examples: Matthew 15:19 and Mark 7:21-22.

Matthew 15:19 “For from the heart come evil thoughts, murder, ADULTERY, UNCHASTITY, theft, false witness, blasphemy.”

Mark 7:21-22, “From within people, from their hearts, come evil thoughts, UNCHASTITY, theft, murder, ADULTERY, greed, malice, deceit, licentiousness, envy, blasphemy, arrogance, folly.”

Pay attention to this: Adultery and unchastity are both prohibited in the texts above. If you read the Greek text, it is “porneia” that is translated as unchastity, in some bible it is translated as sexual immorality. While the Greek word “moicheia” is translated as adultery. Therefore, from these passages we can see that porneia does not mean adultery as that would be an unnecessary repetition.

The word for adultery in Greek is ‘moicheia.’ If the author of Matthew 19:9 felt that Christ was talking about adultery, he won’t have used ‘porneia’ which means unchastity.

If you read Act 15:28-29, the Apostles addressed the gentiles prohibiting four things:

“For it has seemed good to the Holy Spirit and to us to lay upon you no greater burden than these necessary things: that you abstain 

(1) from what has been sacrificed to idols, and (2) from blood and 

(3) from what is strangled and 

(4) from unchastity. 

If you keep yourselves from these, you will do well. Farewell.” RSV (inserted numbers, mine)

Take note of (4), still talking about Porneia or Unchastity. These four prohibitions above were coming from a deep rooted Jewish tradition found in Leviticus 17 and 18.

If you read it through, you will discover that in chapter 18, what the Jews mean by unchastity or Porneia was explicitly explained. It was simply an incestuous marriage. Having sexual intercourse with close relative was greatly forbidden, not to talk of marriage. For the Jews, marriage of this nature is unlawful. This was what Christ was referring to in Matthew 19:9. It is a reference to an unlawful and thus invalid marriage. It is not reference, as Protestants view it, to a specific act committed during a legitimate “life-long marriage.

Jesus’ teaching on divorce was revolutionary. Remember that it was to answer the Jews who thought that one can divorce his wife for some reasons that made Jesus to give the answer he gave. If Jesus permitted divorce, what then makes his teaching different from the one Moses taught the Jews in the OT.

If Christ’s teaching on divorce was that simple, how can one explain the surprise that surrounded the disciples when they responded in the next verse?

Matthew 19: 10, “(His) disciples said to him, ‘If that is the case of a man with his wife, it is better not to marry.'”

The truth is, if there is anyone who is faithfully following the bible, give it to the Catholic Church. Quote me anywhere.





 About to End  My Marriage,  I discovered How to Make my Husband Love me by  Kathy Murray 

6 07 2017


Californian Kathy Murray says she saved her marriage by giving up trying to control her husband. Despite considering herself a feminist, she follows – and now teaches others – the approach of a controversial book called The Surrendered Wife, which tells women to stop nagging their partners and start treating them with more respect.

The first time I married I was divorced by 26. I married for the second time at 32 but soon found myself sleeping in the guest room. My husband and I fought all the time.

Much of our fighting stemmed from the fact I thought my husband was clueless when it came to raising the children (we had four children between us aged from four to nine years old). We also quarrelled about how to manage our finances, and how often we made love.

I was working full-time as chief finance officer for a private school and also volunteered at my kids’ school and in my community. My husband was a sales rep for a construction company but I was the breadwinner and acted like I was in charge.

I didn’t tell anyone I was in constant conflict with my husband. I was embarrassed, angry and resentful.

The six principles of being a ‘Surrendered Wife’

Relinquishes inappropriate control of her husband. Respects her husband’s thinking. Receives his gifts graciously and expresses gratitude for him. Expresses what she wants without trying to control him. Relies on him to handle household finances. Focuses on her own self-care and fulfilment

My husband often resorted to watching TV and snuggling with our pets as I’d rage at him over ignoring my needs. I mean all men want sex right? Not my husband. He wanted nothing to do with me. It was awful.

The more I told my husband how he should be, the less he’d try. I couldn’t figure it out so I dragged him to marriage counselling. But that only made things worse, so we sent our children to counselling since they too bore the brunt of so much of our conflict. That didn’t work either.

So I went to counselling by myself and complained about my husband for more than a year. Spending thousands of dollars, only to find myself nearer divorce than when I started.

I’d cry, fight, yell and pout, thinking he would eventually come around, but he didn’t. I lost weight, went to the gym and started getting attention from men which was tempting to act on, but I knew I couldn’t do that, so I’d play the victim card and sulk. That didn’t work either.

I was about to end my marriage when I picked up a book called The Surrendered Wife by Laura Doyle. I mean, they don’t teach us how to be successful in marriage in school and the women in my life didn’t share the secrets either.

It was incredibly humbling to recognise that I had something to do with why my marriage was failing and perhaps even why my first marriage failed. But it was also empowering.

I didn’t know I’d been disrespectful to my husband or even that I’d been controlling and critical.

I thought I was being helpful and logical. I just didn’t know that respect for men is like oxygen, so no wonder my husband was no longer interested in me sexually.

I’ll never forget the day I first apologised to my husband for being rude for correcting him in front of the children, or the day I said “whatever you think” when I’d previously been extremely opinionated about what he should do.

I had trained my husband to ask my permission for everything. And then complained about it for a year in counselling that he couldn’t make simple decisions!

I relinquished control of my husband’s life, choices and decisions and instead I focused on my own happiness. I was no longer acting like his mother and started acting like his lover.

We were fighting less and less and my husband started reaching out to hold my hand or pull me in for a kiss.

I had no idea that I was responsible for my own happiness. I thought my husband should make me happy.

I’ve now found subtle ways of getting my husband in the mood for sex, which is far more effective than the days of begging, crying or yelling about wanting it. Even if I’m not in the mood and he is, I often find myself getting in the mood just by being open to receiving pleasure.

My kids began to notice the change in our relationship too, and as a result, their behaviour improved and our home became peaceful and fun again.

Women often ask me if my approach is about dumbing myself down or becoming a submissive wife. I tell them I am a feminist. Surrendering is acknowledging you can’t change or control anyone but yourself. That’s empowering!

​http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-37861459





Stephanie Gray’s anti-abortion Talk at Google goes viral 

26 06 2017

This video is worth 45 minutes of your time. One of the  best  talk,  defending the life of the unborn child,  I have heard for a long time. 





For Husbands:20 Lessons from Bible on how to Love your Wife 

23 06 2017

​╔════  🚨   💎   🚨 ════╗

            *Love  Your* 

   *”Own Beautiful Wife”*
  🔹Don’t shout at your

       wife when you are

       talking. It really 

       hurts her. 

       *Proverbs 15:1*
  🔹Do not speak evil 

       of her to anyone. 

       Your wife will become

       who you call her. 

      *Gen. 2:19*
  🔹Do not share her love

      or affection with another

      woman.

      It is called Adultery.

      *Matt. 5:28*
  🔹Never compare your

       wife to another woman.

       If the other woman was

       good for you, God would

       have given her to you.

      *2 Cor. 10:12*
  🔹Be gentle and 

       accommodating. She

       has sacrificed so much

       to be with you. 

       It hurts her deeply

       when you are hash

       and irritating. 

       Be tender.

       *Eph. 4:2*
  🔹Hide nothing from her.

       You are now one and

       she’s your helpmate.

       Let there be no secret

       you are keeping 

       from her.

       *Gen. 2:25*
  🔹Do not make negative

       comment about her

       body. She risked her

       life and beauty to carry

       your babies. She is a

       living soul not just

       flesh and blood. 

       *Proverbs 18:22*
  🔹Do not let her body

       determine her worth.

       Cherish and appreciate

       her even till old age.

       *Eph. 5:29*
  🔹Never shout at her

       in the public and in

       private. If you have

       an issue to sort with

       her, do it in the privacy

       of your room.

       *Matt. 1:19*
  🔹Thank and appreciate

       her for taking good

       care of you, the kids

       and the house. It is

       a great sacrifice she

       is making.

       *1 Thesso. 5:18*
  🔹All women cannot

       cook the same way;

       appreciate your 

       wife’s food.

       It is not easy to cook

       three meals a day,

       365 days a year 

       for several years.

       *Pro. 31:14*
  🔹Never place your 

       siblings before her.

       She is your wife. 

       She is one with you.

       She must come 

       before your family.

       *Gen. 2:24*
  🔹Invest seriously in

       her spiritual growth. 

       Buy books, tapes and

       any material that will

       edify her *&* strengthen

       her walk with God. 

       That’s the best thing

       you can do for her.

       *Eph. 5:26*
  🔹Spend time with her

       to do Bible study 

       and pray.

       *James 5:16*
  🔹Make time to play

       with her and enjoy

       her company.

       Remember when you

       are dead, she’s gonna

       be by your grave but

       your friends may be

       too busy to attend

       your funeral. 

       *Ecc. 9:9*
  🔹Never use money

       to manipulate or 

       control her. All your

       money belongs to

       her. She is a joint heir

       with you of the 

       grace of God.

       *1 Pet. 3:7*
  🔹Do not expose her

       weakness. You will be

       exposing yourself too.

       Be a shield around her.

       *Eph. 5:30*
  🔹Honour her parents

       and be kind to her

       siblings.

       *SOS. 8:2*
  🔹Never cease to tell

       her how much you

       love her all the days

       of her life. Women

       are never tired of

       hearing that.

       *Eph. 5:25*
  🔹Grow to be like Jesus.

       That’s the only way

       you can be a good

       and godly husband.

      *Rom. 8:29*

     *SAVE A HOME TODAY,* 

              *PASS IT ON* 

TO ALL MEN PLEASE
LIKEWISE TO ALL WOMEN.





How I  Empower  my Wife for effective control of my Home by Stan Ekezie

22 06 2017

In order to show my kids who is in charge, I have had to overrule my wife’s decision a few times on almost every aspect of our family life, not in a malicious way though. Just enough to show the kids that I am in charge and my consent or refusal on any issue is final. 

Even when she says no, the kids will file an appeal with me, I will tell my wife to let them go, and even when she disagrees with me, she will still consent, telling them that if your dad says it’s ok, she can’t say otherwise. She always tried to maintain the hierarchy of leadership so the kids can see and learn. Kudos to her. 
One day, I overheard the kids plotting to go to the cinema. 

The youngest one told them to tell mummy  first. 
“I know she will say no, then we can ask daddy and tell him mummy said no. He will most certainly always say yes and then mummy must obey;  she won’t have a choice.”
I was flabbergasted! She was just 11 years old at the time.  It suddenly dawned on me that I had been played, beaten hands down by my own kids. So when they came to ask my permission, I told them it was up to their mum and whatever she says is final, I can’t do anything about it. The look of shock on their faces was priceless. 
From then on, I became the parent who didn’t have absolute powers anymore, we became a team, she did the vetting because she is more thorough and hands-on, she knew each of them more deeply than I did, it was harder to play her. Once she has vetted, she will recommend approval or disapproval and I will act accordingly issuing the final approval or rejecting the appeal. All the things they used to get away with when I was solely in charge became more difficult or impossible. 
The moral of the story is simple, empower your wife for effective control of your home, we are too busy battling to make a living, we can’t multitask, however women were created with the capacity to multitask, they can be successful at work and at home. An empowered woman will be respected by your children thus making it easy for her to teach and mentor them. 

The kids will pick up the slightest signs of disrespect and subjugation of your wife and build on it, this may make it more difficult for her to properly groom them in your mostly unavoidable absences from home. We should always ensure that our wives are not ridiculed or subdued before the children, a wife should be seen as a strong and indispensable component of the family unit. 

The kids must see and know that we love and respect their mother and will support all her decisions. They must know that the house is hers, and that getting favours from daddy is dependent on mummy’s approval. Total authority should rest on her especially if she is a homely and virtuous mother. She knows the kids better than you, she shares a special bond with them and will punish them without emotions when they do something wrong. Ensure that the kids especially your daughters see her as the final say in almost all their affairs,  her decisions concerning them whether we like it or not will always tow the line of reason. Most daughters won’t like their mum until they become adults, because she loves them and punishes them with the same amount of passion when they err.

I believe intelligent and powerful women make better wives and most especially mothers. I’d rather have a well accomplished woman mentor my kids than a subdued and voiceless woman, the later can only transfer her bitterness and frustration to the kids. A powerful and accomplished woman boosts her daughters’ confidence and gives them a befitting role model.








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