Did I deserve to be killed? asks young girl

8 07 2013

Did I deserve the death penalty? a  young girl asks

When we talk about abortion as a valid solution in cases of rape and incest, we must also consider how that makes those feel who were conceived through sexual assault.

In a discussion class in UC-Berkley, students advocating for abortion in case of rape got a shrill response from a girl who was conceived in rape.
“I have a right to be here,” she howled at her classmates.

Shocked, they responded, “We didn’t mean you!”
She asked, “Who did you think you meant?”

Asked later about that experience, the girl said, “People never think they are talking to an exception—like me.”
Could you look at someone conceived in violence and tell her that she never should have been born? What if it turned out to be your best friend—or a relative? Would that change the way you felt about her? Would you think less of her mother?

Rebecca Kiessling, a young attorney and mother who was conceived through sexual assault, asks “Did I deserve the death penalty?”

Can you imagine if we ranked the value of people based on the circumstances of their conception?

“What if it was your daughter who was raped?” someone asked.

“I would love her and my grandchild unconditionally, and I would do everything in my power to prosecute the perpetrator to the fullest extent of the law,” Rebecca replied.

Out of our desire to save someone from suffering, it is normal to wish we could erase a painful memory such as rape. Unfortunately, the hard truth is that as much as we want to, we can’t.

Abortion doesn’t erase a memory. Think about it.

At another lecture at Vanderbilt University, a medical student told other students that abortion is a second act of violence against a woman who is raped, and said her “abortion was worse than the rape.”

Both victims—the woman and her child—deserve our unconditional support.

Pregnancy can be punishing, but a child is not a punishment. When Julie Makimaa was reunited with her birthmother, Lee Ezell (“Victory Over Violence,” The American Feminist, vol. 5, no. 3), Julie asked her if it would have been better for Lee if Julie was never born at all.

Lee told Julie that she was the “only good thing to come out of the rape.”

We don’t discriminate based on parentage—that’s not equality! You are valuable no matter who your parents are, no matter the circumstances of your conception.

People used to value a woman based on who her father or husband was. It is similarly medieval to value a child by the actions of her father. That way of thinking is patriarchal and antifeminist and it should have gone out with the Dark Ages.

Abortion after rape is misdirected anger. It doesn’t punish the perpetrator of the crime, or prevent further assaults against other women.

Priority should be to keep the women safe. Incarcerated sexual offenders should not be allowed pornography, barbells, and early release. We need harsh sentences for sexual assault without possibility of parole.

We need comprehensive support for rape victims who become pregnant. A convicted rapist should never have paternal rights or be able to demand visitation from “his” children while in prison. But if he has the means, he should contribute child support. If a woman is poor and cannot prove the paternity, she could have problems collecting welfare. Small employers could fire her. We need to listen to those who have had children conceived through sexual assault and work for short- and long-term solutions that benefit both.

After a lecture at a Midwestern university where I shared the story of Lee and Julie, a student pulled me aside. She told me that she was raped by her third cousin as a mere thirteen-year-old and had become pregnant. Her parents had helped her have the privacy she wanted during her pregnancy, and then she placed her son with two loving parents.

I asked her, why did she make the decision to have the child—when she was just a girl who had lived through what was arguably the worst of circumstances? She said she would never pass on the violence that was perpetrated against her to her own unborn child. Now that is the strength of a woman!

Because women deserve better,

Thanks to http://www.feministsforlife.org for this article

 


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18 07 2013
reckon tiza

Nt mata d conditn we all one, their shudn’t b descriminatn. In God we share.

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