Do You Care if Your Woman is Clean Or Dirty? by C.S Lewis

24 08 2013

clean or dirty

When we fall in love with a woman, do we cease to care whether she is clean or dirty,

fair or foul? Do we not rather then first begin to care? Does any woman regard it as a sign of love in a man that he neither knows nor cares how she is looking? Love may, indeed, love the beloved when her beauty is lost: but not because it is lost. Love may forgive all infirmities and love still in spite of them: but Love cannot cease to will their removal. Love is more sensitive than hatred itself to every blemish in the beloved; his “feeling is more soft and sensible than are the tender horns of cockled snails”. Of all powers he forgives most; but he condones least: he is pleased with little, but demands all.

When Christianity says that God loves man, it means that God loves man: not that He has some “disinterested”, because really indifferent, concern for our welfare, but that, in awful and surprising truth, we are the objects of His love. You asked for a loving God: you have one. The great spirit you so lightly invoked, the “lord of terrible aspect”, is present: not a senile benevolence that drowsily wishes you to be happy in your own way, not the cold philanthropy of a conscientious magistrate, nor the care of a host who feels responsible for the comfort of his guests, but the consuming fire Himself, the Love that made the worlds, persistent as the artist’s love for his work and despotic as a man’s love for a dog, provident and venerable as a father’s love for a child.

The problem of reconciling human suffering with the existence of a God who loves, is only insoluble so long as we attach a trivial meaning to the word “love”, and look on things as if man were the centre of them. Man is not the centre. God does not exist for the sake of man. Man does not exist for his own sake. “Thou hast created all things, and for thy pleasure they are and were created.” We were made not primarily that we may love God (though we were made for that too) but that God may love us, that we may become objects in which the Divine love may rest “well pleased”. To ask that God’s love should be content with us as we are is to ask that God should cease to be God: because He is what He is, His love must, in the nature of things, be impeded and repelled, by certain stains in our present character, and because He already loves us He must labour to make us lovable. We cannot even wish, in our better moments, that He could reconcile Himself to our present impurities -no more than the beggar maid could wish that King Cophetua should be content with her rags and dirt, or a dog, once having learned to love man, could wish that man were such as to tolerate in his house the snapping, verminous, polluting creature of the wild pack. What we would here and now call our “happiness” is not the end God chiefly has in view: but when we are such as He can love without impediment, we shall in fact be happy.

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18 responses

26 08 2013
Margaret Lee

i have not met such..

26 08 2013
Onyiuke Henritta

yes, men really care about appearance.

26 08 2013
Katherine Renee

Some don’t care either way

25 08 2013
Tonyia L. Newkirk

“Before i could finish my comment ” i try to keep it ” i hit the wrong button i need to finish the comment.”

25 08 2013
Editor

Thank for making the effort to comment on this article, glad you liked it and your comments Tonyia L. Newkirk, has helped us a lot. Your are very kind. Thanks

25 08 2013
Tonyia L. Newkirk

Hey, i would be the first to admit i am not perfect in every since of the word. Meaning sometimes i mess up . I am human and i try to keep it together however, things do fall apart at times. I am so thankful for a loving God who understands and truly thankful for a loving husbands that have the God of love and mercy inside of him . The God kind of Love covers a multitude of sin and gives me the grace to grow in every area of my life. love the article.

25 08 2013
Editor

Tonyia L. Newkirk I must commend you in two way: First to admit you are not perfect is very nice and wise approach to life. Those who are perfect are those who know they are not perfect ..I cant remember who said that. Second,” trying to keep to it” is the story of every successful person. Success is 1% inspiration and 100% perspiration…still I cant remember who said that? Be that as it may….well done

25 08 2013
Editor

Paulette Andres-Duggan, the picture and caption is meant to draw the attention of the reader to the love between a man and woman, if a man care for a woman, he want her to be good, beautiful, clean and smell nice. If for want of good conduct, this woman was to fall by the way side and begin neglecting her appearance, allowing herself to smell, the good husband will give her a hard time so that she can change, that is a good husband. The bad husband will not give a damn and might even leave the house. As such is the love of God, according to this author. God may give us hard time so that we may live up to the image of him that we have in us. That is the reconciliation of the human suffering with GOd’s love.

25 08 2013
Paulette Andres-Duggan

As far as the picture goes he was WHISPERING IN HER EAR

25 08 2013
Paulette Andres-Duggan

I don’t see a problem if my husband wants to talk dirty in my ears, just be clean doing it! I will be more than happy to do the same! Lol

25 08 2013
Ula Saltibus

God is always purifying us, sanctifying us so that we may be more and more like his son, through our experiences good and bad.

25 08 2013
Editor

Ula Saltibus ,I read somewhere that God cannot love us until we are like Jesus , his beloved Son. That is why is purifies us, at time by letting pain and suffering come our way, and if we accept it like Jesus accepted the cross, we become like Jesus. I think is what the author is trying to say here. What do you think?

25 08 2013
Toni Cook

Men loves a clean house. I have learned. They love a clean car too. But men . We don’t want to have to clean up behind a grown man.. HELPMATE…

25 08 2013
Editor

Toni Cook Do you want your beloved to be perfect, and do you seek to remove his imperfections, be it defect of hygiene or tenderness or even table manners in the one you love?

25 08 2013
Toni Cook

Nobody is perfect but I do expect improvement and good hygiene.,if he is talking dirty in my ear. Then that’s my man . DO WHAT U LIKE

25 08 2013
Joseph Caleb Musa

This is a nice one

25 08 2013
Ahmad Aliyu Kirfi

Very well we care, we care seriously, we care more than care, except those men that are dirty or clumsy those one they never care.

25 08 2013
Rose Smith

Good read!

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